As I nursed Baby Magoo this morning for a nap, I got to thinking about how differently I treated Baby Magoo…
With Little Magoo, I was so incredibly overwhelmed about becoming a first time parent – I was determined never to let him cry, determined to go word for word by my sleep training book – schedule, not co-sleep – you name it. And now there is Baby Magoo…and I am so much more relaxed with him. When I see he is tired, I put him to bed…I let him cry if I know he is tired and needs a nap…it’s like night and day with me and I am so much happier as a mother and quickly have learned how to “go with the flow” with our second..not an easy thing to do for someone who is generally uptight. I’m very proud of myself for that.
With Baby Magoo I was quick to learn that no book out there matters – no parenting book, sleep training book – nothing that is sold on the shelf will help you get through this as a parent. Even bringing Baby Magoo home, I had many people ask me “Is Little Magoo jealous?” Sure his jealousy shows through every now and then when he wants more time with me – but over all, he loves his little brother – this new invader of his territory. He randomly gives him hugs and kisses which Baby Magoo grins wildly at – “shares” his toys with Baby Magoo – you name it – he loves that little boy. And did I have to provoke any of it? Nope, not a single bit – granted I know the days of “He took my toy!!” are coming, but for now I’ll soak this up.
I think the best advice I got by far, was from the pediatrician at the hospital. He came to check on Baby Magoo and said: “Does he have any siblings at home?”
“Yes, a brother, who will be two soon.”
“For now, don’t worry about sibling rivalry – that will come later,” he said “Just be full of love. Show your son how to love and be loved and the love will just grow – don’t even worry about jealousy.”
Best.Advice.Ever.
Really, it was – I thought it was one of the kindest things a pediatrician had ever said to me – and it is so true – the love just grows and grows. It is amazing.
I see the curiosity in Baby Magoo’s eyes as he watches his big brother run around the room. The anticipation in Little Magoo, as he looks forward to showing his little brother things.
I am so glad they have each other. Love is a powerful thing.
That is the best advice ever! Love does grow and grow and when you think it can’t possibly grow anymore…it does. Amazing.